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Self-Pity by D H Lawrence – Famous poems, famous poets. – All Poetry

Self-Pity

I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself.
— Read on allpoetry.com/Self-Pity

This may be what Lawrence (or we) would prefer to believe about wild things, but consider those dolphins who refuse to eat after the death of a mate. Consider those geese who search for the lost mate until they themselves become disoriented and die. In fact the grieving have ur-sent reasons, even an urgent need, to feel sorry for them-selves. Husbands walk out, wives walk out, divorces happen, but these husbands and wives leave behind them webs of intact associations, however acrimonious.

Only the survivors of a death are truly left alone.

Joan Didion, the year of magical, thinking, 2005, Vintage Books, New York, NY, page 193. 

153 years later: America, if eligible at all to downfall and ruin, is eligible within herself, not without…

“America, if eligible at all to downfall and ruin, is eligible within herself, not without; for I see clearly that the combined foreign world could not beat her down. But these savage, wolfish parties alarm me. Owning no law but their own will, more and more combative, less and less tolerant of the idea of ensemble and of equal brotherhood, the perfect equality of the States, the ever-overarching A meri-can Ideas, it behooves you to convey yourself implicitly to no party, nor submit blindly to their dictators, but steadily hold yourself judge and master over all of them.” And he said, “It is the fashion of dillettants [sic) and fops (perhaps I myself am not guiltless,) to decry the whole formulation of the active politics of America, as beyond redemption, and to be carefully kept away from. See that you do not fall into this error. America, it may be, is doing very well upon the whole, notwithstanding these antics of the parties and their leaders, these half-brained nominees, the many ignorant ballots, and many elected failures and blatherers.”

Walt Whitman, 1870, Democratic Vistas.

President Josiah ‘Jed’ Bartlet: [to Josh] You know what the difference is between you and me? I want to be the guy. You want to be the guy the guy counts on.

West Wing